Dear LaLa,
My girlfriend is coming for fling and we haven’t seen each other in months. I want to blow her mind. Any tips on how to make going down on her more pleasurable for both of us?
Sincerely,
Lost in Labia
Dear Lost in Labia,
I definitely have a few basic pointers I can share with you! I think oral sex for women is super important since women are much more likely to have an orgasm from it than they are from regular fucking. Unfortunately, it is not as straightforward as giving head since all women pleasure points are different. That being said, here are some tips to blow her mind.
1. Positioning
Missionary is a classic for a reason. This position is super comfortable for women and gives you full access for a more pleasurable experience. It makes it easy to vary from lightly licking the clit to wrapping your mouth around her whole vulva. If you want to spice things up, you can try a different version of missionary and have her lay on her side. Although, I must warn you that this can be kind of claustrophobic. Having her sit on your face is another obvious position, but it has less perks than you might think. A face is not actually comfortable or easy to sit on and it limits your access to her parts. If she likes this kind of positioning, try propping your head and upper body on a pillow with her on all fours. You will have plenty of face to crotch contact.
2. Movements
This is trickier to discuss since it really does vary for each person. It’s a huge plus for her if you either work your way down from her stomach or make your way up from her lower thigh. This will greatly excite her and make everything much more satisfying. Don’t go straight for her clit. Warm up around the area it first. Also, you should know that you don’t actually have to stick out your tongue and enter her vagina. She will only feel sensations for the first inch and your tongue will likely cramp.
3. The Clitoris
Even though it is the only organ specifically created for sexual pleasure, it can be quite a mystery as to the technique for unleashing that pleasure. As previously stated, most women hate if you go straight for the clit since it takes awhile to warm up and fully feel all sensations. After some proper foreplay, women tend to like the clit to be sucked and licked. You can also flick it with your tongue. Add some variety by going from the hood to the clit and then back again. During oral, it will probably be hard for her to communicate exactly what she wants so consider talking afterwards to get to know exactly what she likes.
4. Don’t Act like this is Porn or a Movie
Porn makes it appear that eating a girl out lasts for about a minute. That is not the case. Prepare for a fifteen to twenty minute encounter at least. Also, porn often shows guys that stick out their tongue as much as possible and then stab at the girl’s crotch/vagina. Don’t do that. It’s all for show, it’s not actually pleasurable. Movies also do a horrible job portraying oral sex as the partner is typically under the sheets to keep the movie R-rated. Don’t do that to yourself. It will be a fucking sauna and you won’t be able to breathe.
Things a Girl Can Do for Her Partner
As I said last week, be thankful every time your partner goes down on you. He or she may enjoy it but it still is a sacrifice on their part. Also, remember hygiene is important. Please shower and keep things clean down there for your partner’s sake. Finally, avoid oral during your period. Your fuck buddy might claim they don’t mind, but trust me they do.
Xx,
LaLa
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