I’m afraid that I’m bad at oral sex. Any advice?
Well, since I’m not sure if this sex is being preformed on guys or girls, I’m just going to tell you about both (who knows, it might come in handy for your next orgy or experimental phase). Let’s start with the vag, because even us ladies know, it can be a little complicated down there.
When it comes to lady parts, meet your new best friend, the clitoris. It’s just a little ball of nerves, and it’s going to deserve a lot of your attention. See, some people think because it’s the most sensitive part of the female anatomy, you should start with it. Don’t get me wrong, it’s always going to feel good, but because it’s so sensitive, it can be sexy to work up to it. Start slow, even start with just kissing the thighs or outer layers. Some bizarre men think that putting their tongue directly up the vagina is a good idea. I am going to tell you right now that it is not. Where do you go from here, you may ask? Get up close and personal. If your face is not wet after doing this, you are doing it wrong. One pro-tip, try humming. This might sound weird, but the vibrations of humming can heavily affect sensitive areas.
Now for the men. There are a lot of similarities, start slow, build anticipation, etc., but when you actually get all up in there, it’s a different motion. The most important thing is to make it wet. If you cannot muster up enough spit, try adding a little lube or some other fun food item. It needs to be wet though. A lot of people assume that the only motion for oral is deep throating, which is fine and should be a component, but try to vary it up. Swirl your tongue around the head, vary your speeds, don’t be afraid of using your hands (especially if you have a sensitive gag reflex or are with a well-endowed gentleman). My pro-tip for this one is a little odd. Men have a very sensitive piece of skin in between their shaft and ass. It is called the perineum if we are using science-y terms—but gently running your finger down it will cause several nerve clusters to fire. Trust me, you are going to want to touch it.
In either case, oral is one of those things to talk to your partner about. Ask him/her/ze about what they like and don’t like (though if you are doing this right, you should just be able to hear it).
My boyfriend keeps asking me to swallow but I don’t really like the taste of cum. What can I do? Is there a way to make it taste better?
You know, sometimes making small changes for your partner is sexy and necessary for a good relationship. This is not one of those. What can you do? You can tell him you don’t want to swallow his cum, and if he insists or argues back you can tell him to go fuck himself. That’s what you can do.
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