I really want to experiment with girls. Is it ok for straight girls to do that? Like is that ethically ok? It’s on my bucket list to have sex with a lesbian.
I think this is really a framing issue. Exploration is okay. It is natural even, and happens a lot in college. There are even several theories that everyone is a little bisexual. This being said, your problem seems to be a little bit bigger. If you are 100% sure you are straight, you don’t have to experiment. You have to remember that the people that you are experimenting with have feelings and attractions. You shouldn’t pretend that you are queer when you are not. It could hurt people’s feelings.
Also no one likes to be tokenized; it could be a little insulting to be on someone’s bucket list just because of your sexuality. If you really want to do this, just make sure you communicate with our partner, and if they are still okay after knowing that you are straight, then go for it, but it could make a lot of queer people uncomfortable.
Does bad pelvic pain mean I’ve contracted an STD?
Quite possibly. If you haven’t hurt yourself playing sports or passing out at fling, the pain may be coming from inside the body. There are several diseases that cause pelvic pain. The most common is gonorrhea. If you have inflammation, painful urination or weird or abnormal discharge, gonorrhea is probable.
Chlamydia is often also associated with lower abdominal pain (right above the pelvis, but the pain can radiate). These two diseases have a lot of symptoms in common, but they also have similar treatments. They are fairly easily cured, so while it’s embarrassing, it is not the end of the world if you get treatment fast. You should probably get in touch with recent partners and ask if they have been having similar symptoms, especially if it turns out to be chlamydia. Many people do not experience symptoms and they can easily spread it further or get sick later down the road.
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